Last night my grandson solemnly asked me: "Grandma, what happens to Lady if you die first?" I hate to tell him that I have very few days where that question doesn't cross my mind. I just have to trust that she will go first, because I have no clue what would happen to her. None of my 4 kids are in a position to take her.
I just got back from the dentist. It is ironic that last year I wasn't very impressed with this dentist. (although I loved the oral surgeon on the other side of the practice). He is Indian, or possibly Pakistani, speaks very clear English, but I thought his personality was stern and humorless. How wrong I was. This guy has a sense of humor and is anything but stern. There is definitely a cultural difference, but I am happy to say that I really like him, once I got to know him, and I trust his judgment which is paramount in my book.
He made some adjustments to the partial denture to make it easier for me to insert and take out, and had fixed the broken filling in no time. And he had me smiling and feeling pretty good about the experience when I left. He had told me that I didn't need numbing because I wouldn't feel any pain, but I asked for it anyway. It just gives me a layer of comfort that I need. I sat in my car before my appointment feeling depressed and sorry for myself to the point I wanted to cry, but it was quite different when I left the office. I usually have very good instinct about people, but once in a while I am wrong, and I'm glad to say that this is a case where I was wrong.
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That's why i don't want any more pets now. And i don't know what would happen to my one cat, hopefully, one of my kids would take him.
ReplyDeleteI think one of my boys would take Emma, but they wouldn't be thrilled about it. :( Tried to leave a comment yesterday, but the powers wouldn't allow it...
ReplyDeleteI think about that with Jack, too. One of those things we have no control over.
ReplyDeleteI dread the day I lose him; on the other hand I, too, wonder how he will fare if I go first.
My daughter would definitely take him--she loves him to death, and he loves her BUT she works. He's never been alone for a whole day in all his life. I'm hoping he'd just sleep, but I have put money aside so my daughter could have someone come in several times a day to check on him, etc. I take him to her house (a mile away) whenever I go so that he's comfortable there. She's been walking him almost ever weekday since my back has been bad. He really loves her as much, if not more, than me so I am fortunate--it would just be that he'd be alone that I worry about. He came home from the overnight a month or two ago at the vet with no voice. He must have barked or cried all night.
Your grandson was probably thinking he would take care of him for you and didn't know how to tell you. Little boys are so cute.
None of us likes to think about these things, but we do and we have to. I hate the thought of you not being here* but if Lady needed a home I think your kids might surprise you. Have you spoken to them? She is such a good, lovely dog I am sure there are friends that would welcome her. Ask her if she likes Virginia and dachshunds because she is more than welcome here. [true!]
ReplyDeleteI am glad you like your dentist. It is so important. My primary care physician is from another country and at first I thought he thought Pooldad and I were crazy [our humor, especially now, is really off the wall] until one day I saw him crack a smile. When I asked him about it he said that we were really funny [to him] but he had been taught to remain professional at all times and he didn't think it was appropriate to laugh. He is such a great guy and I thank God for him b/c he deals with all the other doctors that can be so "holier than thou" to us. He always listens and is there for us. In fact, if I had to go through the list of all of my doctors, I find, on the whole, I like those from other countries better than some that are "from here".
I hope you are more relaxed today and smiling that beautiful [fixed! yay!] smile for the world to see. If you are ever feeling down and need someone to chat with just shoot me an email. I'm here. :) Take care Gypsy.
*[Watch me - I am REALLY good at the "euphemism" game. It's a new skill. heehee]
I also hope that the girls go before we do so this won't be an issue. I'm pretty sure my son would take them, but it would be hard. And that is why we probably won't have any more pets when these two are gone.
ReplyDeleteGlad you changed your mind about the dentist and that he made you feel so much better.
Isn't interesting that your grandson can see right thru you and the problems that worry you? They are so perceptive at young ages, but still lack some of the wisdom that is required to manage difficult problems. But yes I think he was thinking that Lady could come a live with him....
ReplyDeleteWe are so lucky in that respect, if Donna & I predecease Rigg's my son Andy would jump at the chance to have him, he has asked several times if we would give him Rigg's when we go full time and we declined each time.He pays as much attention to Rigg's as he does to his own dog Sadie, and I know that he would be a good caregiver. You have got plenty of time left Gypsy, don't worry so much. Be safe out there. Sam & Donna...
ReplyDeleteYou can make arrangements with your local SPCA, and they would place Lady with a foster family, until they could find her a new 'furever' home. An RVing dog would be well sought after!
ReplyDeleteI have fostered several dogs in that situation.
I would say "Get Lady to Me', I would love and take care of her, and I mean that, but I am older than you are, so where would she be then?
Happy Tails and Trails, Penny, TX
That's why I haven't replaced my pet... I got enough to worry about .. hah
ReplyDeleteYour grandson sounds so cute... they have absolutely no qualms whatsoever asking questions about stuff that bothers them...
I bet one of your kiddos would relent and keep Lady... She will go first though.... always such a heartbreaker...
And here I was think'n I was the only one that had concerns bout what gonna happen to my dawg if I die first. Event the thought of her dying first is hard to think about. It ain't like she's just a dog, she's part of me and my life.
ReplyDeleteBeing on the road makes it hard. Who's gonna drive any distance to pick her up? Who can give her a life as I have? Yes Gypsy, I feel your pain.
Over the years, losing my animals became harder and harder so when my last dog died, I didn't get another because I didn't want it to be alone should something happen to me and I didn't want the grief that comes with losing such a special friend.
ReplyDeleteI doubt that Lady will outlive you but I do hope that your children would take her in out of love for you. I know my daughter would take in a pet if I were to get one but it's so hard losing them that I think it's better for me this way.